Tough Love

Last Friday, I was a soggy mess. I couldn’t stop crying. I was missing my best friend and husband so much that I couldn’t see straight. For those of you who don’t know, my husband died earlier this year. But that happened sufficiently long ago that it seemed to me that I shouldn’t be so teary-eyed. I was pretty much an emotional wreck. I whined about it to my FB friends, and everyone was thoughtful and kind.

I guess the thoughtful and kind response made me want to tell one more person. That is where I made a tactical error! I whined about it in an email to one of my dearest friends — and she read me the riot act. It was a swift kick via a short return email.

Generally speaking, I don’t hope to be on the receiving end of a swift kick. But I have to say that in this case, it was just what I needed. Sometimes what helps us the most, or motivates us to change, isn’t warm and cuddly.

I am grateful that I have friends and family members who remind me, who and whose I am. I am a baptized child of God, and that same God granted us eleven wonderful married years together. I am thankful for that.

Looking forward, I hope that I have many years ahead of me to watch little ones grow, have more adventures, visit with friends, and, in memory of my dear Ronnie — to stir up some good-hearted mischief. Thank you, LY. You delivered just the medicine that I needed.

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2 Responses to Tough Love

  1. Jan Seibel says:

    So glad you received much needed advice and love. 😊
    I have a couple of friends that can and will do the same thing. They remind me of who I am, who I belong to and who wins in the end! Then all comes into perspective and I am good to go and win another battle!!
    I certainly wish I could’ve been that person full of wisdom. But God knows and puts people there at just the right time! ❤️

  2. AECRM says:

    Jan, Thank you for your kind note. That was exactly what happened in this instance — someone who knew both of us well and knew that I needed to be reminded of those things. It was the best advice I could have had!

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